I came into my go-to coffee shop and took a seat at the bar. I settled in and began to sip my coffee and took periodical breaks from writing to look up and gaze around the cafe at nothing and everything. The young man seated next to me was hunched over, pen in hand and writing so intensely and close to the page that I thought he may become a part of it. Even in that glance I noticed how intentional he was with his pen. The layout of his pages was something clearly considered and the print he wrote in was the equivalent size of what you might see in the instruction manual of a newly purchased rocket ship.
My curiosity got the better of me and I asked what it was all about and met my new friend, Dustin Lowman. Dustin is a poet and musician and after our brief conversation I quickly invited him to be a part of Project 104, to which I'm glad he accepted. In the days following, we met up for his shoot, had some fantastic conversation in and around the project questions and he also did a reading of one of his poems for me, which you can see in a somewhat avant garde video at the very bottom of this page.
I'm eager to see and hear more from dustin. The poets in our world go greatly unappreciated. We need a poetic perspective at times. Sometimes for no other reason than to get our head out of our own ass. What I have heard and read from Dustin thus far, both in word and music, I've found to be relatable and thought-provoking. Our conversation was no different. Go read what he had to say and make certain to listen to his music and read his poetry as well! You'll be glad you did!
Love Aimlessly, My Friends
What gets you out of bed every day?
I’ve realized that I don’t value anything above creative fulfillment or the promise of creative acceptance by an audience. The promise of something I do in a day contributing to that is generally what would get me out of bed. whether that means going to work or editing a poem, the to-do list for that day involves something that contributes to that overall goal.
To date, what is the greatest lesson that you’ve learned?
The thing lately that has impacted and continues to shape my world view and goals has been… You know the question “If a tree falls in the forest and if no one is there to hear it does it make sound?” For now, I’ve come to the conclusion that it does not make a sound. If no one is there to hear it it’s irrelevant. It doesn’t happen.
The way that that’s come to bear on my life is that in doing something creatively that you want to be your life-blood, your source of income and what you occupy as your life’s work… if you do that with no audience… if you’re the tree falling and there’s no one there to witness it, no matter how extraordinary, it doesn’t matter. It is an irrelevant thing.
It means that you have to consider the preferences of the people who are there to witness it as opposed to just trying to be “good”. Being good relies upon people’s expectations. It doesn’t exist independently.
Growing up you’re given all these things through school and life that people tell you are “good” and you develop this principal that some things are good and good things survive and that there are things that are bad and bad things don’t. You can be “good” but if no one witnesses it then it doesn’t survive. Good things can die and bad things can live. You have to devote yourself to the mechanisms of staying alive in addition to whatever it is that you call good.
What is love?
My initial reaction is to say that it’s trust. If you trust the thing that you are intending to love then you love it. That can apply to a person, the circumstances or situations of your life. If you trust that it will not deteriorate in front of your eyes then you will probably be able to love it.
Social anxiety is antithetical to loving the situation you’re in or the people you happen to be with. A friendly relationship that doesn’t have trust can’t also be a loving relationship or a romantic one.
Trust, on a fundamental level, I think is the primary component of love. For romance you just add sex and you’re pretty much set.