I've known Emilia for about 3 years now. I won't say that we were so much immediately friends. More just acquaintances with friends in common. Emilia is at first, quite. Not shy, but observant.
Now a dear friend, this is still true at times. We know one another pretty well. We easily and freely talk and have had conversations with great depth, sharing quite a lot. No matter how well I do get to know her... no matter the stories or secrets she reveals, I always feel like I'm just scratching at the surface. I love all of this about her.
She's certainly not without her zeal. Her zest for life comes through in her quest for inspiration and adventure and in quick intricate moments with those that she loves and trusts. All of that made evident in her own photography. I see all of what she doesn't say in her images and I think that's why I love them so much. There's a kind of contrast of peace and frustration within her work and I believe that to be telling of Emilia herself. A beautiful soul, finding love, peace, meaning and friendship in a world that doesn't always want to make room for those things.
What does that look like? In Emilia's case, it looks like a face emerging from dark grain in a pocket of light. It looks like a kind smile and a warm laugh when you needed it. A quiet strength that's just becoming aware of what a monumental force She can be.
I celebrated a birthday just before Christmas. My wife made me the most meaningful gift that I have ever received; A compilation of my dear friends sending me video messages. I remember seeing Emilia's face pop up. I was already crying and found more tears when I saw her on that video.
You never know how someone might impact you. They may one day be a quiet stranger that you run into from time to time and later become someone that shakes your life in the grandest of ways. Be open to those around you. Especially the quiet ones.
Love Aimlessly, My Friends
What gets you out of bed every day?
Light. Definitely. Annnd... well, if I don't get the hell out of bed then... I'm just going to miss everything! I think it's finding an adventure in every day and getting out instead of "Well what did you do today?" "I slept until 3:00, and then got up and went to work." You know? I want to have a story in every day. Even if I don't leave my house, at least I got up and read something, or listened to records or just had a lazy day. At least it was something that at some point was inspiring to me.
I think that you have to fight to stay inspired. Getting out of bed to find that every day is always an adventure. I need adventure because I need a change of pace all the time. I'm afraid of complacency. I think that that's important for anyone but especially creatives. I have to get out and get uncomfortable for a while.
To date, what is the greatest lesson that you’ve learned?
I would say... and I may be going back to Tarot reading that I had in Texas, but it's acceptance of self of forgiveness and of the past. I feel like I'm on life number 2 here in Nashville. I came here from life number 1 and got that shit out of my system. I realized that every phase you go through in life gets you to where you're at now. Even if they're not great, accepting that you are where you are. You get to have a vision of where you want to be and you wouldn't be where you are without the past. It's acceptance of all of your own bullshit and then using that to understand how to move forward, while also being thankful that you're where you are.
I'm glad that I fucked up. I'm glad that I was an idiot for a long time because now I'm happy where I'm at and am excited to expand as a human from here. It's hard. It's not easy at all, but I think you have to find other humans who get that and stick with them. They're the good ones!
What is love?
It's hard. Very hard. But fun! It's hard in the sense that I think love is constant forgiveness of yourself and also of the people that you love. Forgiveness and acceptance. But it's so much fuuun!! It's fun to look around at the people in your life and be like "Holy shit! I love these humans!"
I think that love is also gratefulness. I keep thinking back to that Tarot reading. We were talking about looking around at the court you share with people and just being so grateful for it. Realizing how great the people you surround yourself with are is so amazing! I'm in love... it's fresh and new and I'm figuring that out. I've also just found these amazing women and I LOVE them too... and I have the best family in the world. I'm just at a new point of "Holy Shit! I have all these kinds of love!" and I have to learn to navigate all of that but at the end of the day... Fuck Yeah!
It's not always easy but it's always fun. Love is cool! I like it! It's a very warm place to be.
About Emilia : Emilia is a fellow Nashville based photographer, adventurer, and all-around badass. Be sure to check out her work here: www.emiliapare.com
Lives in Nashville, TN
From Morgan, VT
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