I’ll be turning 30 in less than a month now. I’ve learned a lot about relationships of many kinds over the years. I’ve learned that we romanticize them too much at times and that when friends fall away we feel that something went wrong or that the relationship didn’t hold the value that we thought it did. That isn’t true, and is another conversations in and of itself, but I will also say this;
Over my current 30 years of experience thus far, I’ve learned that you also have the opportunity for some truly unique and rare connections and relationships. I’m fortunate enough to consider Stephen (as well as his wife, Ally, and son, Euey) part of my family. They are mine and Emily’s chosen family. I don’t say this at all lightly, and I recognize the true rarity of this connection with them. It’s a connection that’s been tested more than most friendships ever are and I love them with all of my being!
I admire this man. He can be an ass at times, as we all can, but his heart is pure gold. His drive and ability is beyond what I ever think possible for myself and now watching him as a father is absolutely nothing short of inspiring. Life is an adventure for him, no matter if he’s popping through the Washington mountains, in the daily grind of running his businesses better that he did the day before, or watching his son, Euey grow and learn before his eyes.
Stephen often runs on the cuff, and his answers to these questions were given in such a fashion. They are honest, true and reflective of the man he was in that very moment. I applaud his ability to be fluid in life and remain true when that line is needed and then to shift and change when something could be better.
My brother, thank you! You’re an inspiration for me and so many, and I love you!
Love Aimlessly, My Friends
What gets you out of bed everyday?
I naturally wake up early. The reason is that I need to create. Both mentally and physically. I just have a deep desire for that. Even on the weekends I’m up at 5:30 just so that I can have more time for it.
To date, what is the greatest lesson you’ve learned?
Ha! [Quoting me] “Love people and don’t be a shit-head!” Hahaha.
Hmmm…. really, that’s pretty tough. There’s so many. This may sound a little selfish, but it’s to do what makes you happy. It also sounds very cliche, but it’s true. I think that a majority of people don’t do what makes them happy. There’s a shit-ton of external variables that dictate what they do. “My parents want me to go to college, so I’m going to go to college.” That’s all well and good. Being selfless and doing things for others is wonderful, but there a balance and I don’t think that people do things that make them happy and much as they should. In my own journey of learning to be self-aware… a journey that I’m still and will probably always be going through, I’ve taken this as my ultimate lesson. At the end of the day you have to be happy for yourself. This life is too short not to be happy.
What is love?
I think that love probably goes hand in hand with the biggest lesson that I’ve learned. In being happy. I think that love is allowing others to be happy. I’m still processing this. It makes sense in my mind but I’m trying to figure out exactly how to say it. It’s not all or nothing. There’s a balance and a give-take but it’s taking the time to figure out how to make it a win-win. Love is a lot of compromise. Because we’re all so different, love also allows us to do that. It allows us to all be happy at once if we work together. Love allows each of us to sacrifice a bit of our happiness for the happiness of those we love which in turn also makes us happy.
About Stephen :
Lives in Tacoma, WA