Barbara Alexander

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It's amazing the people that you'll meet if you allow yourself the opportunity to do so. This sweet, wise woman stole my heart and gave some of my favorite answers to date. I mean... I seem to love everyones answers so very much, but the simple wisdom and honesty of her responses really spoke to me. "I don't know what love is, but it's pretty good.", she said. I love that. It's appreciating something without fully understanding it. We sometimes get so caught up in trying to understand the whys of a thing that we totally neglect to appreciate the thing for it's beauty of simply existing! Asking questions is good. Imperative, even, but what would they be worth if we never took the time to enjoy the simple experience of life for all of it's pain and pleasure. Thank you, Mrs. Barbara. You have my heart! 

Love Aimlessly, My Friends

-Chris


What gets you out of bed everyday?

 Right now… I am 86 years old and 87 on November the 15th. I get out of bed many times to GO TO THE BATHROOM! Hahaha! But… if you wanna get a little deeper… I don’t know… I just wanna see what’s gonna happen the next day! I think “Well, will it be worse or will it be better?” I’m an idealist. I think that there’s a lot of good in people. I may be wrong, but it’s how I see the world. 

To date, what is the greatest lesson you’ve learned? 

Well… I’ve leaned to be a little more humble, and I try not to be judgmental, and I’ll tell you where that goes back to: A long long time ago, we moved here, to Jamestown. We opened a store, and along in there our house burned down. We lost everything we had except the clothes on out back. I found out after that… just coming to this place and getting to know people… I have never seen so much kindness in my life! I learned then to not judge people. You might not like someone at first, but don’t hold it against them. I don’t know if that makes sense or not, but it was a turning point in my life. I was inmy 30’s and we were just starting out with a family, and after an experience such as that, it changed my outlook of how I look at people. I’m a retired school teacher. In my classroom you were all the same in my eyes. I’m liable to flog you one minute, but I still love you, and you’re going to do it my way. haha! 

What is love?

For me… haha… it’s having him. (Pointing to a portrait of Frank, her late husband) “What is love?!” I don’t know if I can even put it own words or not. It’s a feeling that’s with me forever to wards certain people. Just about everybody. I’ve got about 10, maybe who are on the bad list, and right now I’m beginning to even forget who they are, which is good for being 86. “What is love!?” Is that what you said?! Well, it’s an emotion. It’s a feeling. It’s something that’s inside of you. I don’t know how you get it. You do get love too, I guess. From the people that have raised you, from families… from friends. I’ve got a question mark in there… I don’t know what love is but it’s pretty good! And I’ve had one great love… and that’s (Pointing again to Frank’s portrait.) I’m a widow. 

 

About Barbara :

Lives in Jamestown, TN

87

Retired Educator and beautiful soul.