I use an audio recorder when asking everyone the three questions. I do this for a few reasons. One... just so that I can know exactly what their answers were, word for word. Two, I really like the mental impact that having a recorder present has. It seems to make people really consider their answers. Even if they stumble over their words here and there, they will dig a little deeper to answer the question with as much honesty as possible. As you might imagine, a lot of conversation happens in and around these three questions. Hayley and I spent a solid our talking.
We covered everything from the creative mind, to religion, spirituality and the universe, to commitment to self, the golden rule and even how her mom humorously ended up ruining the song "Take It Easy" for her.
The recorded answers below are the ethos of her answers, and I wish I could share the whole conversation with you all, but what I will say about it, and all of the conversations that I've had thus far, is that humanity is so truly amazing! We are all so different yet we have SO SO SO much more in common that we ever seem to realize.
I also want to say thank you. I feel so very honored to have all of the support that I've been shown from both participant and readers alike! Thank you. Thank you!
Read Hayley's words below. I'm certain that you'll love them every bit as much as I do!
What gets you out of bed every day?
Hmm… My honest response would be that if I could stay in bed all day I probably would. Probably because I’m such a dreamer, bed times are more of a sacred time for me. It’s kind of my “action” place, in a weird way, if that makes sense.
I am a homebody and somewhat of a hermit but I do like being around people. It takes a lot out of me to socialize and to do my creative projects, whatever they may be, (I have an array of things I love to do) but what would get me out is more of like… getting the story across. I like doing more story telling and working with people who have visions and stories. Those are more of my action ways to get out of bed. Haha!
To date, what is the greatest lesson you've learned?
So… this has actually become my mantra. It’s that “You are not responsible for other people's happiness.” That’s probably been the biggest and most freeing thing for me. Especially being a high-sensitive spirit. I take on people's emotions and I take on their baggage really easily ‘cause I want to help and I love solving and I like just being there. But I realized that I was doing more damage to myself than I was being of help to that person.
When you tell yourself that you’re not responsible for other people's happiness and that you’re only responsible for your own that just really takes the pressure and the stress off of yourself! It may sound like a kind of jack-ass thing to say but at the end of the day, be your best. Do the best that you can. If someone’s freaking out and it’s not within your control, give it your best but don’t obsess about it and know your boundaries. It’s an ongoing practice, for sure! It’s hard! Some of what I’ve struggled with was the idea that if I said “no” to people it was like me saying “I don’t love you and I’m not there” but really saying “no” is saying “I love and I care but I have to protect myself and love myself first and well before I can take on anyone else and give more”. It’s hard but it’s good!
What is love?
My gut says… “Love is acceptance.”
Love takes on the body of a lot of things. Its kind if a metamorphic word. Emotion, action… It takes on all the forms but I think deep down it’s acceptance. That’s the hardest thing to learn.
It’s just about appreciating things. It’s really easy to love, but most of us get so wrapped up in our own shit to even see it or feel it… think of it…
From Atlanta, GA
Lives in Nashville, Tn
First and foremost, Hayley is an artist. It takes it’s main forms in art direction, consulting, hair and makeup, and acting