Sometimes… you just gotta blur the lines.
There are so very few things in life that are black and white. I feel that most of what we pretend is that hard-lined we do simply to give ourselves a sense of peace and comfort. A sense of stability. None of that has a sustainable foundation if it’s actually built on a lie.
I've lied to myself before about a great deal of things. It’s surprising what you can convince yourself of. It’s surprising that we can be the holder of truths and the harborer of lies at the same time. Usually, we always know the truth deep down. It’s because truth is a foundation in and of itself.
That doesn’t mean it’s easy, but it does mean it’s REAL. You can build on real.
As human beings, we’re all ultimately after the same thing. That is to feel comfortable and content. We all find it in different ways. Some of us even find our comfort in discontent. If you find your comfort in something that is built on a lie... it won’t sustain. You’ll have to constantly fight to feel like you’re correct in the way you’ve chosen your content. You’ll be defensive if challenged, and you’ll never be able to truly grow.
Get back to the basics. Pinpoint one absolute truth and then challenge even that. Once you know it’s not a lie, start there. Challenging yourself hurts. It brings change and change isn’t easy. We would all be the very best versions of ourselves if it were. When you challenge and change you have to fight. You have to hurt. You’ll be left with scars, but you will ultimately be left with truth. With foundation. You’ll know who you are. Really. You’ll know that you can challenge and be challenged and stand the test. You won’t be defensive because you’ll have your own ultimate truth.
Go for it!
“If you can see the path laid out before you, you are on someone else’s path. Follow your own path.” —Joseph Campbell